it infuriates me when people tell me “lifes too short to not forgive people!” like NO lifes too short for me to continually allow abusive and manipulative behavior in my life and live in a constant state of anxiety bc I want to be “nice” or whatever
There’s such a big difference between moving past what someone did to you, and forgiving someone for it. I’ve never understood why people think the latter is necessary in order to do the former.
There’s that saying “forgive them not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace”. Basically yeah don’t allow yourself to be abused, but also don’t allow yourself to be brought down by spite and hatred over people that wronged you before, and move on; that’s all the “forgiveness” means in these sayings. It’s for you to feel better, not to ‘allow people to be bad to you’.